Yesterday a year ago, my dad passed away. I feel I ought to leave a trace here to remind myself not of our parting but of our meeting again after twenty-nine years of no contact whatsoever. It was the scariest thing I’ve ever done. And the most rewarding.
Two years ago I saw my dad – for the first time in 29 years. Our paths had separated when I was nine years old and my parents got a divorce. It was a sudden end to the life I had known. Before I realized my dad was gone. My mom, my siblings and I moved away to live with our new stepfather. I never heard from my dad again. It took me 29 years to find the courage to write to him.
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my one life. today 
this is so powerful and i’m so happy that you found each other again, even if it was for a short time, it sounds life changing. lovely tribute to his memory
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Yes, it certainly was life changing. It gave both of us the invaluable opportunity to make peace with a very painful past. And we did, thankfully.
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I’m so sorry for your Dad’s passing a year ago, but am so happy that you had an opportunity to re-connect with him for a time! I imagine that it must have been very hard to have reached out to him that first time, not knowing what his response would be, and it is so wonderful that you did! That took great courage! You gave yourself and him an opportunity for some closure, and that was a very kind and loving thing to have done! My heart goes out to you, and my condolences on his passing. ❤
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Thank you so much for your warm words. Yes, we had a very important, though much too short, time together and we managed to achieve what a lot of parents and children often fail to do in so many more years, and that is to forgive each other for our mistakes and part with each other peacefully. They say that forgiveness is a gift we primarily give to ourselves. It sounds so postcard like but really it is true. I reached out to him just as much for myself as for him. And even though I still tear up when I think of his passing there also always is a deep, deep sense of gratitude. ❤
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It sounds like you gave each other “a lifetime” in the time you had together. My guess is…he is now with you always…. ❤
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I’ve never considered seeing it this way. But, yes, indeed we did. Thank you!
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